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There are three simple steps that you must follow in order to have more fun in your life, even if you are feeling lonely. If you follow the three simple steps of knowing where you really are, knowing what you find fun and taking simple action and you will find an abundance of fun in your life beyond what you are currently experiencing. These are three simple steps that any person can follow, but it starts with taking it one step at a time.

Step #1 – Know where you really are

In order to be able to have fun in your life you have to be honest with yourself. You have to take the time to honestly reflect on where you currently are in your life. Some people are feeling lonely because they have chosen to isolate themselves. Others feel lonely because they have some kind of perceived societal pressure to fit into some kind of cookie cutter formula of what is socially correct.

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The good news is that no matter the reason you are feeling lonely, you can still have a lot of fun and enjoy life. It doesn’t matter if you are going through tough times and am self isolating or if you feel you are not fitting into what society says you should be. Either way, just acknowledge that you are currently feeling lonely and allow that to be the driving force behind your next step.

Step #2 – Know what you think is fun

Once you have the courage to acknowledge that you are feeling lonely the next step is a little more soul searching. You need to take the time to reflect and remember what it is you have done in the past that was fun. You have to take the time to really remember what is fun to you and be honest about it.

What is fun to you may not be approved by other people but you need to stay true to yourself. You may find reading quietly by yourself as fun but people around you are telling you that you need to have more outward fun because you are feeling lonely. They are perceiving that the answer to loneliness is to be more outgoing and forcing yourself to do “fun” things that match what they say fun should be.

This is wrong, you need to be true to yourself and do what is fun for you. If it looks like what is fun to you does not support stopping your loneliness then pause and realize what will help your loneliness will be to have more fun, no matter if those around you feel that you are making the right choices about your fun.

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Step #3 – Take simple action steps

This final step can be the most challenging. You have to make a choice, a choice to take some small action to have fun. Once you know what it is you have fun doing, then make the choice to spend even just 5 minutes a day doing what you find fun. And stick to this, no matter if others judge it or tell you to do something else.

Instead of getting angry or frustrated with those around you for them wanting you to do something different that they is the right kind of “fun”. Instead reach out to them and ask them for support. Ask them to be there and encourage you in your choice of fun, and possibly even share in that fun. Even if it just means that the two of you sit in a room and read without talking to each other than let that be what happens.

The real key to having fun when you are lonely is to choose to have fun. Know who you are and what is happening in your life right now, then reflect on what you really believe to be fun, and then have fun, even if it is in small simple steps every day. When you choose to make fun a regular part of your life, you will enjoy the fun and want to have more and more. This will give you a better life overall.